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Getting the Work Done at Wolf Creek Lodge

Bob and Claire Miller are providing ideas and considerations on community cooperation to “get the work done,” in maintaining and sustaining their Wolf Creek Lodge cohousing community.

Cooperation and Fairness

Here are some "frequently asked questions" by members of forming cohousing groups:
• How many hours per month must each person commit?
• How do you account for the hours?
• Can people pay rather than work?
• What do you do about those who do not contribute their fair share?

Do You Feel Safe & Secure?

Do you feel safe and secure? Given the appalling violence profiled in daily, that has to be a question that arises for each of us. Despite pleas also constantly voiced that we should not give in to fear, we naturally question our security, and the resultant stress can chip away at our confidence and happiness.

What's it Like to Grow Up in Cohousing? The positives in breaking an arm

Most people would think that there are no positives in breaking an arm. In cohousing, the decision is more complex. When I was eight years old, I was having a swinging contest with my neighbor Kaden. I must confess it wasn’t just a swinging contest. It was a jumping off of swings contest. Kaden and I would swing as high as possible on our community playground and then jump off. The person who landed farthest away from the playground won. I had been warned many times not to do this, but I thought that I was as tough as rock and did it anyway.

Seeking Affordable Cohousing Options for Individuals: Part II

[Wendy is responding to an inquiry from a person in Sacramento seeking affordable cohousing options, who writes: I’ve been trying to crack this cohousing egg for many years without luck. We have many new cohousing projects either developed or in development in the Sacramento, California area, but when I ask about affordable units, I get no response. Visit here to read Part I.

Do you proactively de-escalate ‘diverse’ personalities in your life?

Coho/US is presenting a retreat Sept 30 – Oct 2 called “Dealing with Diverse Personalities in Community” at Arcosanti, Arizona. Arcosanti is an experimental community between Flagstaff and Phoenix built by a bunch of volunteers to demonstrate sustainable alternatives to urban sprawl and also the home to a bronze bell foundry. Arcosanti will be the location for another experiment of sorts as the venue for this retreat, facilitated by Jeff Zucker and myself.
“De-escalation”has been in the news lately. Our retreat will concentrate on how individuals within communities of any ilk can learn some skills about exploring the roots of your own diverse personality, how to become aware of others’ diverse personality traits and how to de-escalate when personalities clash....
I had heard about community skirmishes, but this is the first time I’d been in the middle of one.

Seeking Affordable Cohousing Options for Individuals: Part I

[Wendy is responding to an inquiry from a person in Sacramento seeking affordable cohousing options, who writes: I’ve been trying to crack this cohousing egg for many years without luck. We have many new cohousing projects either developed or in development in the Sacramento, California area, but when I ask about affordable units, I get no response.

....It is likely your requests were fielded in the past by someone who didn't really know how to respond to them. When a person with needs--financial or otherwise--contacts a cohousing community and wants to join it, chances are that there's no procedure, policy or guidelines in place for handling this special request. So if PFAC refers the request, it does so with the unfortunate knowledge that it might be doing nothing more than exporting a quandary. This quandary becomes a crisis when an active community participant can't in the end afford to move in, leaving a community on the verge of construction short of pre-sales, and a valued community member without a home!

What's it Like to Grow Up in Cohousing?

I’ve lived in cohousing for all I can remember- nearly my whole life! When I was 13 months old my family moved into the friendly community that surrounds our everyday lives. When I meet people interested in cohousing, they all ask what it’s like to grow up here. So many people ask that one question-- the one question I can’t answer. The truth is, I don’t know what it’s like to not grow up in cohousing. There are obvious differences, like the lack of roads, the close houses, and the friendly people, that even I understand.

Where would you want to die? How would you want to die?

Here is the text of the letter I read at the Aging Better Together conference in Salt Lake City. My neurologist friend who wrote the letter has since given permission to use.
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Hey STEVEN, here are some facts from 2010:

Medicare paid $55 billion just for doctor and hospital bills during the last two months of patients' lives. That's more than the budget for the Department of Homeland Security, or the Department of Education - and it has been estimated that 20 to 30 percent of these medical expenses may have had no meaningful impact....About 20% of Americans will die in an Intensive Care Unit at an average cost of $10,000 per day.

The question is, where would you want to die? How do you want to die? If we don't ask the questions then we will not have options.

Dealing with Diverse Personalities: Arcosanti Retreat

Everyone has one. It doesn’t matter what your gender is, or your ethnicity. Whether you are young, old, tall, short, liberal, conservative, gregarious or introverted, you have one, and so does every other person on the planet.
What is it?
A personality.
Some people even have multiple personalities, and we all know that we act differently at work than we do at home. We interact differently with our parents than we do with our children, or the person next door....But, when we intend to build a harmonious community, it is sometimes challenging to create a collaborative environment with people who are so different from us. “If only they would understand things the way that I do,” we say to ourselves. “If only.”

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